Beauty & Vanity – “The Barbie Syndrome”

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting—but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Proverbs 31:30.

If you spend just two seconds viewing anything on your TV, you most assuredly will see gobs of female vanity, flesh and our obsession with the outward appearance. It is so invasive and deceptive that even strong Christian women have fallen into its trap to their detriment. Obsessive behavior of weigh loss, plastic surgery, the “most desired” look of thin body, white teeth, shiny hair, along with trendy designer-brand clothes and jewelry, expensive cars, vacations to exotic places, all to be coveted after to be a “real live Barbie doll.” To be a beautiful Christian woman and teach our daughters likewise is a good thing but our beauty is not defined by “Hollywood,” or “Stars” or “Idols” or the media. We have the Scriptures to define how we are to look and live and it has volumes to say about it. Yes, we are to be outwardly beautiful to look upon as our sisters Sarah, Esther, and Elizabeth were. We are to be good stewards of all that Christ has made available to us for our bodies and minds to accomplish it but never are we to make “gods” of ourselves or become obsessed with those things. Our outward beauty should reflect the inward beauty of a Christ-like heart and attitude. Our motto: “Be beautiful, be lovely but be biblical.”

“True piety, instead of setting aside a single female excellence—clothes all female virtues with a Divine sanction—harmonizes the demands of God with the claims of man—converts the ordinary duties of domestic life into a means of preparation for that glorious world where the social ties no longer exist—and softens the cares, anxieties, and sorrows, with which woman’s lot in this world is but too often sadly oppressed. Whatever else a woman may be—without true piety, she is lamentably deficient. “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting.” The face of a beautiful woman ought to be an index of the mind; and when all is beautiful on the outside—all should be glorious within. Never does outer beauty and elegance appear more revolting—than when seen united with an ill-furnished mind and an ill-favored heart. And yet how often do elegance of manners, and loveliness of person, conceal dispositions which are in total opposition to them, and bitterly disappoint the man who has been captivated by them—and who in his choice of a wife, has been led by no other considerations than mere external beauty and personal charms!”[1]

What a reminder to us as His daughters! “…Man looks on the outward appearance but Jehovah looks on the heart.” I Sam 16:7 May it be that our outward appearance is both beautiful on the outside and glorious within.

Prayer

Beautiful Savior and Glorious Lord, help us as women to see the beauty of You and Your Word and to strive to obtain that beauty that grows more precious day by day. Help us to be good stewards of all of those blessings You have given us in this life to help us have a pleasing appearance and be good stewards of our bodies and minds. Strengthen us to reject vanity and the worldly motivations for beauty but rather beautify us for the good of our loved ones and your glory. We ask You, our Bridegroom, as Your Beloved Bride, in Jesus Name, Amen.

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[1] “Female Piety,” John Angell James
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“Just a bit wound up this morning…”

If you follow the news, you can’t help but be “wound up” over the latest outrageous behavior of the New York Times. I’m designing Flash projects this morning and listening to Laura Ingraham and I can say I am running on full power and ready to “re-enlist” as a GOP-Team Leader in support of our Country, Party and President Bush although my plate can’t stand another portion of stuff. If you want a good read this morning, read Michael Barone’s piece on the New York Times article…it will stir you up too!

Revelation risks . . .By Michael BaroneJune 27, 2006

Why do they hate us? No, I’m not talking about Islamofascist terrorists. We know why they hate us: because we have freedom of speech and freedom of religion, because we refuse to treat women as second-class citizens, because we do not kill homosexuals, because we are a free society. No, the “they” I’m referring to are the editors of the New York Times. And do they hate us? Well, that may be stretching it. But at the least they have gotten into the habit of acting in reckless disregard of our safety.

http://washingtontimes.com/commentary/20060626-094414-5880r.htm

The disclosure of this program is disgraceful… [F]or people to leak that program and for a newspaper to publish it does great harm to the United States of America. — Pres. George W. Bush, on the New York Times’ running of a story about a classified bank records monitoring program. [From Laura's website]

More soup stirring up?—-
http://www.lauraingraham.com/

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The Five “C’s”: Church, Cliques, Coffee, Cookies & Crumbs

The Five “C’s”
Church, Cliques, Coffee, Cookies & Crumbs

Part I “Church & Cliques”

Okay, I will say it…we have social cliques in our churches. We try to cover up, ignore, overlook or we are just plain blind to them, but we do have them. Any Christian, whatever gender, age, race, position, occupation has experienced at one time or another the position or experience of being inside or outside of a “clique” group in fellowship in the church. I’ve been in them, gender-specific, age-specific, child-specific, etc. etc. and so have you. We like to say that people will fit together socially in certain people groups within the church body because of their “specific” needs or situations or because it just “works that way.” But how does this play out in practice? You know:
  • You walk into a new church and no one greets you because everyone is busy with “friends” and catching up.
  • You are a visitor or friend of the church and you attend a dinner, coffee hour, event and are faced with the awkward position of the “regulars” all sitting together, enjoying fellowship and you are alone, ignored and noticeably uncomfortable and want to hit the pavement running and decide there and then never to attend another event.
  • You are a church member and are one of those members who is not in the “clique group” “officer group” or a “long-standing or “charter member” group.
  • Or, perhaps you are in one of these categories: a single, divorced, or widowed adult, middle-aged or elderly, infirmed, or, childless and are totally “outside” the “qualifying norm” (i.e., family: father, mother, children) of your church and therefore “just don’t fit in.”

But what does the Bible say about this? Is it biblical? In short, the answer is yes and no. YES, in the formal preaching, teaching, and official administration of the church we have gender-specific positions and administration but NO these are never to be “cliques” but rather “office specific” by administration, not by relational attitude and behavior to other members and groups. In plain language this means in the fellowship of believers in the church body, there should not be a “leadership clique” or “officer-to-officer friendly group-only” “mommies-only clique” “married-only clique” “single-only clique” or any other type of “clique.” All members of the body of Christ, whether official, leadership, member or child should fellowship one with another as unto Christ. We are Christ’s body, which is one, and no part is without the other.

“But now God has set the members, each one of them, in the body as it has pleased Him. And if they were all one member, where would be the body? But now indeed many are the members, yet only one body. And the eye cannot say to the hand, I have no need of you; nor again the head to the feet, I have no need of you. But much rather the members of the body seeming to be weaker are necessary. And those members of the body which we think to be less honorable, on these we put more abundant honor around them. And our unpresentable members have more abundant propriety. For our presentable members have no need, but God tempered the body together, giving more abundant honor to the member having need; that there not be division in the body, but that the members should have the same care for one another.” 1Co 12:18-25

In this article, I want to speak specifically about those “social” events, church suppers, outings, coffee hours and other “fellowship” events in the life of the church body since this is the place where most of those occurrences of “cliquish” behavior occur. Should there be “cliques” here – the answer is unequivocally “No”! Absolutely not! Sadly, I believe this causes more folks to be offended, unhappy or leave a church than any other. We, as people, will tolerate bad teaching, preaching, uncomfortable seating, etc. but we will not tolerate alienation and rejection. If we look at statistics or do a survey of why folks leave a church, this is high on the list of reasons. [This would have been one category I would have added to Richard Gant’s “Twenty Controversies That Almost Killed the Church.”) It is no wonder that “fun-filled” erroneous doctrine is tolerated in many churches because the “people are friendly” and “I feel loved and appreciated there” or “I can be myself and accepted for who I am and I am no longer ‘on the outside looking in’ in the church family. These are sad statements are they not? A true indictment of our lack of love of the body in total and our ministry to them in the church family. We can have biblical, correct doctrine and yet completely miss the mark in our ministry to the body of Christ in the church. Christ has said, “Let love be without hypocrisy, shrinking from evil, cleaving to good; in brotherly love to one another, loving fervently, having led one another in honor.” We are all guilty and need to repent and beseech Christ for mercy to change and flee from our cliquishness to be an outgoing, outgiving, loving and ministering people. Only then will we no longer be “cliques” of peoples in the body but rather one body, in Christ, in heart and action, and can we say we are reflecting the glory of Christ as the body of Christ. We celebrate the Lord’s Supper as one body and we celebrate our fellowship in the body as one. We eat and drink together as one. Let us live as brethren as one.

There is so much more to say on this and I will in my next article, Part II, “Coffee, Cookies and Crumbs.” You know where I am going on this, don’t you? This Lord’s Day as you worship and fellowship with His people, consider these things you have read and examine yourself to see where change is needed. You will be the better for it to the glory of God and the good of your own soul.

Prayer
Blessed Lord God, the Lover of our souls, have mercy upon us and lead us as Your people to love as You have loved us and given Yourself for us. Help us to flee from the sin of cliquishness, favoritism, discrimination and knock down our prideful hearts and behavior so that we will be reflections of Christ-likeness and truly love and serve one another as You have commanded. Open our eyes to see ourselves as others see us so that we can change. Help us to be pititful to those that are different than us and to reach out to them. You have placed us in the body by Your providential sovereign decree for Your glory and our good. Help us to be a people of one heart and mind. Because of Jesus we ask, Amen.

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Wow, time to smell the roses….


Wow, as usual, I am too busy and no time to blog. I thought I would share the June wallpaper for this year (as well as the June wallpapers on site). I am a “happy gardener” and this was photographed by my DH for my June wallpaper. There are others on the website.

Our roses (all 200 0f them) were beautiful this year because of the cooler weather for a longer period which gave the buds an extended time to grow. Here’s the link to the wallpapers:

http://www.joypals.com/classystationery/wallpapers/june2006.htm

Enjoy… an article is forthcoming.

Blessings, joany

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“Hearts & Idols”

“Little children, guard yourselves from idols.” I John 5:21
“Idols aren’t just stone statues. No, idols are the thoughts, desires,
longings, and expectations that we worship in the place of the true God.
Idols cause us to ignore the true God in search of what we think we need.”
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I am amazed as I read and studied this subject matter how easy it is for us to fall into the sin of idolatry in even the “good” and “little” things. As regenerate children, our thinking is renewed by God’s Word and we can see clearly where we err and sin and it convicts us to examine our hearts and lives in everything. But, the world and its influences and their error of promoting “idols” “idolatry” and “covetousness” of things to be desired chase after us with rapid speed to fall into the same error and misuse the grace of God that we have been given. They, the devil, and his cohorts want us to “be like them” and make idols of even the things that are good and profitable. We know what many of them are: husbands, children, family, homes, wealth, prosperity, gifts, attitudes and temperament, rights and privileges, desires, goals, hobbies, etc. etc. etc. They want us to “worship” them rather than the true and living God and thus we can become gods unto ourselves, placing our love, desire and gratification above God, who alone reserves the right of worship and thus we fall into idolatry, self-centeredness and misery.

When Christ gave us new life in Himself, it was to free us from the dictates of the world in our thinking and to be ruled by Him and His indwelling Holy Spirit and not by our sinful desires and fleshly lusts. Yes, we are still in our sinful bodies and will lust after those things and use the good things given wrongfully but we have been enabled to quash these desires when inordinate and put them into their proper place and our wants and needs will then become His. We are changed by His Spirit into “not my will but Thine be done.” Not an easy task for us as we well know. We struggle, we study, we pray, we beseech God for His mercy to help us and we continue to strive on in our walk to “be content” with “all things” for His glory. He is our King and our God and He alone has the throne room of our heart. The “gods in our hearts” need to be cast out and the biggest god is ourselves and what we want and how, when and where we want it. We want that life “free from idols” and the love of “things” so that our contentment and peace lies not in our circumstances and possessions but in Christ alone. He is the true “bread” and “water” of life and if all we have or had is Him, we have everything. John the Baptist knew this as did many of the brethren of Scripture and in past Christian history — our desire, our life, our love, is hid in Him and when we understand this, we are filled with contentment, peace and a joy of heart in serving, loving and worshipping Him without the distraction of other “idols” of heart and mind.

John has warned us in I John 5:21: “Little children, guard yourselves from idols” thus meaning that we are always to have on the “whole armour of God” and that is not only talking about the idols of the world, brick, stone, golden calves and the like, but the mindset of the world, the “new age” of the world, the “I’m okay, Your okay” covetousness; the love of money and self, the denial of God in all things, the unregenerate worldview, rather than the clear-eyed and lovely Christian worldview of all things through the lens of Scripture. His reference to “little children” tells us “be careful, WATCH OUT” be on guard, the devil would “sift us as wheat” and longs for us to fall into idolatry of all sorts. Do not be ignorant of his devices. Adam and Eve fell into idolatry of heart and mind by coveting to “be like God” and to have their desires “satisfied” with the fruit of the tree” and rebelled against the life-giving, perfection of Christ and thus thrust all men into rebellion and sin. God is not mocked, whatsoever we sow we will reap and so John has warned and we take heed to “guard” ourselves from idolatry.

Elyse Fitzpatrick has done us a great service in providing this well-written and God-honoring book to educate us on this subject of “idols” “idolatry” and help us guard ourselves from falling into it.

“Idols of the Heart” has recounted the story of Rachel and her “coveting” of the household idols of her father. We have seen the covetousness of “give me children or I die” of Rachel and the rivalry of idolatry of Leah and Rachel in their want of children and “outdoing” each other for the affection of Jacob. As we looked at them and the commentary in “Idols,” we see how much we are like them in those idolatries of our hearts. This is good because it brings us to the foot of the cross. It reveals how much we need Christ and His wonder-working power in our lives to bring about repentance and change, love of Him first, love of neighbor and the “want to” of serving and loving without compensation or blessing.

“Fitzpatrick says, “God calls us to bury our false gods at the cross. It’s in union with Jesus Christ, the One who hung on Golgotha’s tree, that we have the power to conquer all of our idolatry and bury our gods in the blood-soaked ground beneath His cross.” 2/

Christ humbled Himself and gave Himself and we are to do likewise. He is the “heart knower” and “heart changer” and He can “do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think” and He can help us bury the idolatry, flee the covetous heart and mind and make us more and more changed into His mirror-image day by day as we seek His face and help to do all things for His glory. Do not be alarmed but be pitiful and make supplication to Him who alone can change our idolatrous hearts to sacrificial contented hearts of love and grace.

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Blessed God, we are your pitiful and loved children who want to love you with all of our hearts, minds and souls and to love our neighbors as ourselves. We want to be Christ-like in all that we say and do. We want to “covet” You and Your likeness. Help us, change us, and make us more like Christ as we walk as pilgrims in an idolatrous land of “me, myself and I” and in a world where the understanding of idolatry has been hidden beneath the layers of rock and stony hearts of men. Help us as your blood-bought children who are in need of grace, peace, contentment and Your ever-present love and joy. We are sorry for our sins of idolatry and placing everything and anything before You and Your Word. Give us soft and tender hearts and bury the idols of our hearts at the foot of the cross forever, we pray. In Jesus Name, Amen.

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1/ Elyse Fitzpatrick, “Idols of the Heart, Learning to Long for God Alone” ["Idols"] P&R Publishing, 2001, p. 23]
2/ Ibid. p. 28

[Source: "My Summary and Comments": JoanY, ReformedWomen, "Observing the World's Gods" & "Rachel's Gods and You"]

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